Here are some ways to protect children from divorce:

1.  Break the news together: If possible, both parents should tell the children about the divorce together and explain what it means in an age-appropriate way

2. Shower the children with love: Children need to feel loved and supported during this difficult time. Spend quality time with them, listen to their concerns, and reassure them that they are not to blame for the divorce

3. Encourage time spent with each parent: Children should have regular contact with both parents, as long as it is safe and appropriate. Encourage them to maintain a relationship with the other parent and avoid speaking negatively about them

4. Minimise exposure to conflict: Children should not be exposed to parental conflict or used as messengers between parents. Keep adult conversations away from them and communicate directly with the other parent

5. Maintain stability during the divorce: Try to maintain a consistent routine for the children, including school, extracurricular activities, and time with friends. This can help them feel more secure during a time of change

6. Set long-term boundaries: Divorce is not an overnight thing, so it's important to set boundaries that will last for years to come. This could include establishing a parenting plan, setting rules for communication, and agreeing on how to handle conflicts that may arise in the future

7.  Start your own healing process: Divorce can be emotionally challenging for parents as well as children. Take care of yourself by seeking support from friends, family, or a therapist/counsellor or divorce coach. When you are emotionally healthy, you are better able to support your children through this difficult time

We specialise in working with parents to help them agree their future parenting plan and all of the issues that need to be thought about as part of separation and divorce. If we can help you email us at hello@familymandm.co.uk or call us on 0800 206 2258.